If you want to experience drama at its best, then adopt a couple of pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had such an experience with my daughter and a couple of her friends.
As soon as they got into the car, I started to know things like:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He explained he liked me and it absolutely was the best day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the high school kids."
"I won't ever, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the car ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in many of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The adult drama queen says things like:
"I have fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they need but me."
"I'm this type of failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to perform? That has been so humiliating."
Through the years of being a woman and experiencing womanhood, I attended to appreciate that we all have a dilemma queen that lives within us. It only becomes a problem when she's running the show. Dramacool
So, here are a few methods for living at peace together with your inner drama diva:
1. Look at the drama, rather than from the drama
When you will find yourself being swept up into a remarkable moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe how the emotions build, and then notice how you are tempted to act. Would you observe how drama adds a complexity to the situation?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. Instead of saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," a dilemma queen says, "I'm this type of failure. I won't ever, ever learn math." Or, rather than saying "I ate a case of Oreos," she will say, "I have fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the facts of the situation, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic likes to sensationalize things, but why don't you challenge her only a little with proof. Like, when she claims you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who've done that which you are attempting to do or find reasoned explanations why you may be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just desires to be heard and seen. Give the indegent thing 5 or 10 minutes each day to accomplish her thing. I want to schedule in drama time when I could complain, exaggerate, cry, or merely step out of my beautiful life for a couple moments to obtain completely trapped in drama, but I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the flicks
All of us crave only a little excitement in our lives. The problem occurs whenever we use our lives as the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that element of you who craves a big production, try taking her to see an excellent show or read an excellent, trashy novel. You can leave feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
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